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Weekly Meditation Scripture: I CORINTHIANS 8:6: But to us there is but one God, the Father, of whom are all things, and we in him; and one Lord Jesus Christ, by whom are all things, and we by him..... Matthew 12:31: Wherefore I say unto you, All manner of sin and blasphemy shall be forgiven unto men: but the blasphemy against the Holy Ghost shall not be forgiven unto men.......

FAMILY LIFE CONFERENCE

A TEACHING ON WOMEN’S EXPECTATION FROM THEIR HUSBANDS.
By Bishop (Dr.) J. O. Fatunwase, Former General Overseer

INTRODUCTION: "A wife of a noble character who can find it? She is worth far more than rubies." Says King Solomon in Prov. 3:10.
The marriage institution is an important institution that no procreating man or woman will neglect. To do otherwise is for such to do that for their own peril.
Husbands as the head of the wives are expected to provide for their households. Man is expected to leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and shall become one. He is to love his wife.\
The wife is expected to be submissive to the husband and hold him in very high esteem. His people should be her people; his god should be her god and wherever he goes there should be her destination.
Unfortunately, husband’s expectations from their wives have been below average due to reasons ranging from SOCIAL to ECONOMIC and from LUST to ADVENTURE.
The wife of today is not contended with conventional, biblical, or constitutionally assigned roles. What a man can do in their estimation, the woman can even do better. So the career woman of nowadays craves for IDENTITY, EQUAL RIGHTS, UNLIMITED RECONGNITION and FRREDOM. They are asking for gender empowerment and power sharing, either in the office or in the home front.
If anyone admonishes the woman of today to tread softly, proclaiming the culture of humility and patience, she stares directly at one’s face and scornfully ask a man of noble character too, who can find?
Having gone so far that we may now want to know what are women’s expectations from their husbands to the delight of women and benefit of men.
1. The wives expect their husbands to give them unconditional love.
2. The wives expect to be adequately protected and cared for both in health and sickness – part of the marriage vow.
3. Wives prefer men or husbands who are morally pure. Wives hate husbands who are liars, a dupe, a thief or a gambler.
4. The wife expects the husband to provide for the home. Wives hate husbands who are negligence in their responsibility by not providing for what they and their children will eat. The wife expects the husband to pay the children’s school fees, clothe them, and pay house rent and other relevant bills.
5. The wives love husbands who are successful and progressive. They expect their husbands to be the best among his maters. They also expect him to be prosperous, so that they could live a life of contentment. When men are successful, it brings spiritual, psychological, social and emotional satisfaction to their wives.
6. Wives love men who are intelligent and decent in appearance and character.
7. The wife expects the husband to give adequate personal attention to the family. They expect their husbands to be the father of the home offering useful suggestions and words of wisdom. Wives hate husbands who leave the home front in crisis and act as "External Affairs Minister" outside.
8. Wives expect their husbands to give them gifts or cards on some occasions.
9. Pay compliments to your wife and show appreciation for even the smallest good work done.
10. Do not compare your wife with another woman. This arouses the defeatist sentiment in her.
11. Wives expect their husbands to love their family as this portrays how the love of them is in their husbands’ heart.
12. Do not notice other women. Wives do not like trusting or respecting men who notice other women.
13. Wives love husbands who apologize whenever they do something wrong. This boosts their ego. Wives hate husbands who always claim treat they are right, simply because they are husbands.
14. Women abhor men who are always suspicious and skeptical. Such men become a burden to the wife who will now be hiding something from him.
15. Do not nag always, because wives do not feel free with husbands who complain so often. It bruises their ego and confidence.
16. Trust your wife. The essence of marriage is trust. A marriage without trust will not bring success into a home.
17. Women like to control their husbands through the back door. Pretend as if you do not know and indulge them at times. They always want their ideas and decision to be followed.
18. Women love constant assurance that you love them. Reassure her always that you love her.
19. Wives expect their husbands to see them as their soul mates and not house helps or bedmates. They expect the husband to involve them in the day-to-day planning and running of the household.|
20. Wives expect their husbands to help them in the kitchen, bath children and do general cleaning of the house.
21. Women love to be free sometimes. They want to be with their friends at times.
22. The wife expects the husband to take the children to social centers or amusement packs so that she could have time for herself.
23. Wives expect their husbands to share secrets with them, which makes them different from inquisitive in laws or office secretaries.
24. Wives do not expect their husbands to marry another woman.
25. Wives love husbands who are not too cool or quite. Women like talking. They prefer men who are witty and alive.
26. Wives do not expect their husbands to ask for change when they are sent to purchase anything. Asking for change, they see as tantamount to accusing them of insincerity.
27. The wife hates husband who hangs out always with friends, just as they hate friends who always come to visit their husbands.
28. Wives hate husbands who are tipsy or drunk, apart from its danger, wives believe drunkards always ignore their home responsibilities.
29. Women hate fat men because it makes them look ugly sheepish, inactive and unattractive. Men shed your weight always.
30. Woman love sex. Wives expect their husbands to make love to them frequently, intensely and passionately. Husbands who starve their wives with good sex are only encouraging them to look outside and commit adultery.
31. Wives expect their husband to know, appreciate and understand when they are either too weak or not in the mood for sex.
32. Wives hate husbands who are envious of their wife’s success or achievement. As such men can kill their wives or bring her down.
33. Lastly, all women expect their husbands to die before them. Their reasoning is that it has been decreed that they should own properties left behind by their husbands.